Woman details ‘worst date ever’ with man who arrived drunk
In a viral video on TikTok, a woman details the “worst” date she’s ever been on. Unfortunately, according to the comments, many men don’t realize they are doing this.
In the video, TikTok user Beth (@thelifeofbethchronicles) explains that she had a very bad date with a guy she met for the first time. She says the date went so bad, she felt threatened by his antics enough to record him being a jerk as a way to protect herself in case things got worse.
Fortunately, Beth was able to extricate herself from the maddening and sometimes terrifying situation, but not before trying to help this man who she wanted nothing to do with from the beginning of their first physical encounter. She detailed it in a viral TikTok video that had more than 1.5 million views as of Sunday morning.
Beth begins her video with a bold statement: She’s just endured what she calls the “worst” dating experience of her “entire life.”
From the beginning, things were off to a bad start even before they met at the restaurant. Beth arrived first, but received a call saying that her appointment was late due to pedestrian traffic and that he did not look happy. She tells him to relax and that his tardiness is “not that serious,” while he curses on the phone and is generally “grumpy” and expresses his anger.
Unfortunately, his behavior did not improve when he finally went to the restaurant. Beth says he greeted her with a roar she called a “grovel” and then proceeded to embrace her as if she were the love of his life who he hadn’t seen in three months.
She says their time at dinner was so embarrassing that she had to go to the bathroom twice just to escape the painful atmosphere between them. One silver lining she encountered seemed to be some of the other women in the bathroom, which she quickly befriended and confided in that she was currently experiencing the worst history of her life. Back at the table, the TikToker said the man kept trying to hold her hand and when she showed she was uncomfortable with it, he asked her why.
She says he covered the entire dinner bill, which was $127, although she “offered to pay her side,” and when dinner was over they went out into the street to walk around. After dinner, Beth’s companion invited her to a nearby cigar lounge. She refused, but says he strongly pressured her to go. At the end of the evening, her date indicated that he probably wasn’t sure where he had left his car, and appeared to Beth to be somewhat intoxicated.
At that point her appointment became clear. “I probably drank too much alcohol before I came because I was nervous,” he told her. She couldn’t believe he was drunk and proceeded to call him. The man repeated that he was “nervous” while profusely apologizing for being beaten up before their meeting.
She then had to take on the role of escort, saying she literally pulled him by his shirt to help him find his car, but the man had no idea where he parked his car. After asking him what level he was at, Beth said he was “really inclined” to get drunk, and asked him for his car keys so she could honk the horn in an attempt to locate his whip.
“We start at the top and work our way down. I’m so gentle, I wanted to leave his shoes sitting…but I’m gentle so I try…to help him find his car. We couldn’t find his car, we honked the horn, and he started getting really angry.” “He throws his food, screams, screams, screams, screams, kicks the pole… as if we were in a parking garage.”
Disturbed by his behavior, Beth said she decided to start recording her experiences with him. “He’s drunk, and he’s angry. I’m just trying to calm him down. I think it’s going to be okay, you have to calm down, and we’ll find your car, like it’s going to be okay. I’m so nice,” she says.
At this point in the evening, while her date was having a tantrum and she was trying to defuse the situation, Beth noticed a security van driving around the garage. She said she told the guard to help her because she didn’t care about this man’s feelings anymore.
It turns out that the security guards took it seriously from the beginning and that they had jumped out of their car and were calling for backup thinking that she was in danger. She then quickly explained to them that “everything was fine” and that her companion was just “drunk” and “angry” and that they were unable to locate his car. “This is the first date and I would really like to leave. Can you guys take over?” she asked.
Beth took the time to explain how their date happened while handing the guards the keys to the angry man’s car and telling them which area she suspected was parked from the sound of the horn that went off whenever she pressed the alarm button. The drunk man wasn’t much help in the situation because he couldn’t even describe what his car looked like, and the TikToker says she had to pass on her personal information to security guards and that the ordeal was a “whole thing.” “
The theatrics didn’t stop when Beth handed the keys to the security guards and started walking away as well – she said her partner shouted at her from a distance. “You’re done with me, aren’t you, I’m done, I’ll never hear from you again. And I was like,” she widened her eyes at the camera as if to express how upset she was by his actions. “The two security guards were laughing with me like…yes, my friend.”
Near the end of the clip, Beth seemed to have a lot of advice on first date safety. “But that’s why we take our own car, and that’s why we keep our phone fully charged and full of storage so we can record things. I actually blocked his number in front of the security guards and… I blocked him.”
Fulfilling her promise to upload footage of her struggle trying to help the man find his car, she posted a video on TikTok containing a recording of the man writhing in the parking garage. He can be heard screaming in the clip, and as Beth said, she is trying to calm him down in his drunken rage. The clip eventually shows her interacting with the security guards who appear to be confused by the man’s behavior.
@thelifeofbethchronicles What was your worst first date? This is the *short* version of me. #thelifeofbeth #datinginyour20s ♬ original audio – TheLifeOfBeth ™️
Unfortunately, Beth’s experience has sparked a discussion about a very stark reality that some women face while dating, and a reality that the US Department of Health and Human Services has compiled a large amount of data on: dating violence and abuse. “Dating violence is very common in the United States. It can happen at any age, but younger women are more likely to experience dating violence. More than four in 10 college women have experienced violence or abuse in a dating relationship,” the agency wrote.
Many viewers who took part in Beth’s rage agreed that she was indeed on a date from hell. “Let’s normalize going on bad dates,” one person wrote.
Another person said there was no way they would let the date go the way Beth did: “RAWR…..I would have left it where it was.”
One user indicated that she had also encountered this behavior before. “The amount of first dates I’ve been on where they admit to taking multiple takes before because they’re ‘nervous’… they never get second dates,” she wrote.
Another noted that the man was deliberately acting more drunk than he actually was in an effort for Beth to try and get him home. “I have a sneaking feeling he was acting drunk, so you could drive him to your house because he ‘can’t remember where he lives,'” the user wrote.
For one TikToker, Beth’s experience served as a cautionary tale about when too much empathy in unwarranted situations can be dangerous: “You’re so nice. But we need to stop being so nice.”
The Daily Dot reached out to Beth via TikTok comment for more information.