How to have the best sex of your life as you age

How to have the best sex of your life as you age

Women all over the country are looking for new ways to have great sex as they get older.

Perimenopausal or menopausal women don’t want to back off just because their bodies are changing.

Experts say you can still have great sex as you get olderCredit: Getty – Contributor

Finally, experts are stepping in to help eliminate some of the symptoms that can affect your sex drive — from vaginal dryness to low self-confidence and even joint pain.

“Physical, psychological, social and lifestyle factors during menopause can all affect your sex drive,” explains Dr Eloise Elphinstone, BMS-certified menopause specialist from Menopause Care.

“One of the main changes is lower levels of the hormones estrogen and testosterone. Both play a role in feeling aroused and ready for sex.

“Low levels can sometimes affect your response to sex and how you feel about sexual activity. Everyone is different.

“It’s common and normal for your sex drive to decrease, but it’s also normal if it increases or stays the same.”

New research from the Menopause Expert Group reveals that 35% of menopausal women experience joint pain during sex, more than half are dehydrated, and 53% said they felt body conscious.

According to research, women have sex 116 times a year on average before they reach perimenopause, but this drops to just twice a year during menopause.

So how can women who suffer from this flip the narrative and start having great sex again?

According to experts, the first step is self-exploration to find out how your body changes and the way your body experiences pleasure.

“Sometimes our sex drive needs a jumpstart,” explains leading sex expert Samantha Marshall.

“So, to get started, we need to take the time to explore on our own.

“Throughout our lives, our feelings change – and this is just one of those times.

“Consider it an opportunity to get excited about pleasure again and treat yourself to some new vibrators that provide different types of stimulation.

“Remember, it’s not just about internal stimulation. In fact, most vulva owners need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.

Once you’re feeling confident and reconnecting with yourself again, start looking for new menopause-focused products to help you transition between the covers.

One of the major physical drawbacks that many women experience during perimenopause and menopause is vaginal dryness, and as a result it can make sex painful.

Doctors can prescribe medications such as hormone replacement therapy (HRT), testosterone, and even vaginal estrogen to help treat physical symptoms.

But there are also options that can be purchased at your local pharmacy, such as all natural, PH balanced, and hormone-free lubricants.

Some of these products, like Lotus Blossom Vaginal Moisturiser, go even deeper, offering you a vaginal “facial” to moisturize, replenish, strengthen and improve skin elasticity.

Enhancing sexual desire

Taking it to the next level, there are even now injections that are injected into the vagina that can help women, such as The O-Shot®.

“It works by using platelet-rich plasma (PRP), which is then injected into the vagina and clitoris, to stimulate cell growth and tissue regeneration,” revealed women’s intimate health expert Dr Shireen Lakhani.

“In conjunction with improving vaginal sensitivity and dryness, O-Shot therapy can also be used to treat stress urinary incontinence and lichen sclerosus (a debilitating genital skin condition).”

Another physical symptom of aging and menopause is the loss of muscle tone in the pelvic floor, so it is necessary to strengthen the pelvic floor to help treat urinary incontinence and prolapse and even improve orgasms.

“It’s best to do pelvic floor exercises three times a day,” explains Dr. Elphinstone.

“It doesn’t take long and can be done while driving, watching TV or lying in bed.

“To squeeze your pelvic floor muscles, try to feel like you are holding in urine and holding back wind at the same time. Then do 10 quick compressions and relaxations.

“Once you get used to it, try holding each squeeze for up to five seconds. Try building up to 10 holds of up to 10 seconds.

“Make sure you relax completely between each compression. If you don’t relax properly, that can lead to problems as well.

“Remember to breathe normally, and if you’re squeezing your upper abs and glutes, you’re holding on too tight.”

There is no “one size fits all” solution when talking about sex, libido, and menopause.

Dr. Eloise ElphinstoneMenopause specialist

You self-explored, bought lube, and did your exercises. Now is the time to reconnect with your partner.

Some women often find that the traditional positions they were practicing before are now uncomfortable and do not give them the pleasure they need.

The most rewarding poses for menopausal women are those that reduce stress on the joints and also help women feel more confident about their appearance.

According to the newly reinvented Karma Sutra, designed for menopausal women, there are three higher positions worth trying.

Three senior positions

1. Cutlery drawer

The cutlery drawer, or spoon as you know it, allows a woman to lie comfortably on her side while being penetrated from behind.

“The spoon position is ideal for many during menopause,” explains sex counselor Barbara Santini.

“This position allows for a warm, intimate embrace that can be incredibly comforting.

“This position allows for deep penetration without the intensity of direct face-to-face interaction, which can be less stressful for both partners.”

2. Yoga class

The second is a yoga pose, which is great for women who are feeling more adventurous.

The position requires you to lie on your side with one leg bent up and resting around your partner’s waist.

This has the benefit of stretching the hips, which helps reduce inflammation and pain.

3. Side by side

Finally, there’s the simple side-by-side mode.

“This can be a lot of fun because it provides a different angle for penetration,” Barbara explains.

“In this position, both partners face each other and can maintain eye contact, which may increase emotional connection.

“It’s less physically demanding, making it a good option for those with joint pain or fatigue.”

In addition to the physical elements, the psychological elements of what happens to your body can also affect your sex drive and your relationship.

According to professionals, the best way to overcome these mental blocks is to talk.

“Communication is important. Your partner may not understand the changes you’re going through and how they affect you and your sexual desire,” continues Dr. Elphinstone.

“The first step is to acknowledge there is a problem and try to talk about it, and make sure you both get a chance to express your feelings.

“Talking and listening can help keep your relationship strong. It can be helpful to remember that a relationship is not just about sexual intimacy.

“There is no one-size-fits-all solution when talking about sex, libido and menopause.

“Everyone experiences perimenopause and menopause differently. It’s an important area that shouldn’t be pushed to the side.

“It can have a huge impact on you, your relationship and your self-esteem. So my only advice is to talk – whether that’s with a friend, your GP or your partner.

Experts say there are three sex positions that are great for menopauseCredit: Getty

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